How to Have Better Sex and Romance with Essential Oils

Throughout history, fragrances have always been an inseparable element in love and romance. Whether it is Cleopatra dousing herself and her surroundings in rose essence to seduce Mark Antony or eastern maharajahs sniffing on a bunch of jasmine as watch their courtesans dance, fragrances have had a large part to play in igniting passions and sensuality.

The use of essential oils in lovemaking is nothing new, but today, we know that it is much more than a tradition.  Scientific research carried out by neurologist Alan Hirsch at the Smell and Taste Treatment Research Foundation in Chicago has proven that certain scents are shown to have a powerful effect on our olfactory lobe, which is a part of the limbic system that houses sexual desires. Different scents seemed to produce varied levels of arousal in men and women, with Lavender and pumpkin pie ranking the highest! Even skeptics will agree that a nice smelling environment is conductive to romance and lovemaking – the scent of essential oils in a diffuser can elevate the mood and set you up for a passionate interlude.
Physical and emotional factors such as vaginal dryness, poor body image, stress and past traumas can be detrimental to sexual desire and confidence. Essential oils work in myriad ways to heal the body and mind. They balance out the chakras (energy centers) and stimulate the sacral chakra, which is located at the pubic bone.

Rose Oil 
Rose is almost synonymous with love and romance. Its fresh, floral scent is a powerful aphrodisiac. Because it acts as an anti-anxiety agent, rose essential oil can greatly help men with sexual dysfunction related to performance anxiety and stress. It has also been reported that it can help balance sex hormones, which can contribute to increased sex drive.

Pure rose oil has the highest frequency around 320 Hertz of all the essential oils on this world. This in itself is an important factor. It means that the fragrant molecules of the rose oil are able to quickly penetrate and travel the infinitesimal pathways of the body, rapidly energizing every cell, bringing balance and harmony to the body. For this reason rose oil may help with chronic sexual disabilities like frigidity, impotence and sluggish libido. It is stimulating and elevating to the mind, creating a sense of well being.


There are many ways to enhance and improve libido. We can attend to our diet, meditate to reduce stress levels, do some basic and simple yoga postures or partake in some regular exercise. However, it does seem that whenever libido and aromatherapy is mentioned in the same article, rose oil (rose otto, rose attar) is put forward as a simple remedy.

Rose essential oil has been dedicated to Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of sexual love and beauty, and her Roman equivalent, Venus. Because the scent of rose is so sensual, the Romans scattered rose petals on the bridal beds for the wedding night... a tradition now embodied in throwing confetti.


Pure rose oil is also recommended for women who find it difficult to reach orgasm and whose low sex drive or libido is linked with lack of self-confidence or with menstrual problems. It is also beneficial for men suffering from erectile dysfunction.


Beautifully fragrant, rose oil is uplifting and anti-bacterial. It regulates female sex organs, nourishes the skin and is an anti-depressant, sedative and tonic. It benefits the uterus by helping to tone and regulate uterine activity. It is also useful for depression and low libido. Traditionally, the delightful floral scent of rose denotes innocence and purity, it is also perhaps the most trusted stimulant of sexual desire. The evocative rose aroma is said to overcome impotence and frigidity, to calm nerves, eliminate feelings of jealousy, disappointment and resentment, all of which are a bonus for lovers.


Deep, sweet and flowery, an exquisite perfume, its beautiful fragrance is almost intoxicating and aphrodisiac. It has a soothing effect on the emotions, particularly deep depression. The fragrance of rose oil lifts the heart and eases nervous tension and stress. It gives a woman positive feelings about herself and calms premenstrual tension, promotes vaginal secretions and regulates the menstrual cycle.


Its beneficial action on infertility aids "male" problems too, probably by increasing the semen. Helpful with sexual difficulties, particularly frigidity and impotence, the fragrance also releases the "happy" neurotransmitter dopamine. (Dopamine is synthesized in the body, mainly nervous tissue and adrenal glands, by the decarboxylation of DOPA by aromatic L amino acid decarboxylase).


The mere thought of aphrodisiacs is romantic, conjuring up images of love potions and uncontrollable passion. Shrouded in a mist of myth and magic, pure rose oil is recorded over and over throughout history and across cultures. Science has finally begun to catch up to folklore in providing an explanation for the sexually stimulating effects of this amazing essential oil.


Scent is a simple way to set the mood for romance, whether applied as a perfume or diffused through a room. Our sense of smell is primal. The nerve endings in the nose are barely separated from the limbic system of the brain, the "old brain" that serves as the center for our basic instincts, including sexual desire. Rose oils literally have the power to change your mind ... what else ?

How to use rose oil for libido: Many men and women who are planning a romantic evening should rub two drops on their neck or diffuse them throughout the home or bedroom. 


Coconut Oil 

Coconut oil contains antioxidants which break down free radicals that can lead to a lowered libido and overall drive. This is one all-natural remedy to try before resorting to other means.

Unlike other lubes, coconut oil is all natural and doesn't contain any preservatives or added ingredients that can cause adverse reactions in people with allergies, says Landa. "Plus, it's way more lubricating than a water-based version so it lasts longer." Coconut oil has also been shown to be anti-fungal, so it can help keep nasty yeast infections at bay. It even works great as a massage oil before or after sex, says Landa.

And yes, we're talking about the same kind you find in the drugstore or grocery store. Just be sure to look for pure coconut oil that doesn't contain any other added ingredients.

That said, this tropical lube isn't for everyone. There's always a chance you or your partner could be allergic to it, so be sure to test it out on less sensitive areas (like your arms or legs) before using it in the most delicate of places.

You also shouldn't use coconut oil with latex condoms, says Landa. "Coconut oil may break down the integrity of the condom." Plus, previous research found that most lubes—even oils—may reduce sperm mobility or alter the pH levels in your vagina, so you might want to steer clear of this if you're trying to get pregnant.

The antimicrobial nature of coconut oil helps with some STDs that are bacteria based. One such example is chlamydia. The use of coconut oil is safe, and without side effects, and is also one treatment method that your doctors probably won’t tell you about. It’s one option to try before resorting to medications, either by prescription or bought over the counter. The same effect could responsible for other colds and diseases, so it’s a good idea to add this as part of a comprehensive treatment.

Lemon Oil 

Lemon oil boosts the immune system, fights colds, improves your overall health, energizes, improves the condition and look of your skin. When you feel and look better, you are more confident. And confidence is sexy!

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